Society claims that abuse is detrimental to the child's psyche and wellbeing. But is it really? Child abuse is defined as the physical, or emotional mistreatment or neglect of a child. I believe that child abuse only strengthens the children, and prepares them for the real world. What doesn't kill me only makes me stronger, as the saying goes.
Abuse is just a juxtaposition of events that, in the end, helps children all over the world. By learning to bear the pain, children are learning lifelong lessons. Such as never trust anyone fully, other than yourself, and to grin and bear it.
My family grew up with hardly anything and that taught me the importance of discipline. Once I left home to depend on myself, all things I originally thought of as unattainable, suddenly became within my reach – and so began the downward spiral into my success. All that I am today is all due to the lack of affection I received as a child, including the bullying my peers suffered unto me. In fact, I now am rather grateful to my neighbour whom, in my childhood, abused me. The spoilt child would often pluck out my favourite flowers that I had worked so hard to grow, strangle them into a bundle and leave them for me to miserably find. He also constantly brought out grotesque looking figurines called ‘dolls’ and insisted he didn’t want them anymore.
My trust in humans died then, and has stayed dead. Experiences such as these opened my eyes to the reality of the world, and I realised that if I overcame my failings, I was no longer an insufferable weakling in the world. If not for my neighbour, I would not be the person I am today; rich and successful.
The above lessons are important, and ones I have taken to heart. Only a select few of my closest friends (of the few friends I have), knew about my parenting secrets prior to today, as I trust them to keep quiet and to not sell my secrets to the highest bidder. This is another lesson which children who are abused learn. They learn whom to trust and whom not to trust. It is a harsh lesson, which usually is filled with mistakes, but after it all is said and done, the child learns, and adapts.
Children who are mistreated learn at an early age that the world is not all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows, since children whom don't grow up being abused rarely learn this lesson until much later in their life. This will make those children overly naive and unknowing of the true harshness of the real world. Being maltreated as a child only strengthens children, and teaches them to be able to block off their own emotions from the outside world. Having the ability to remove oneself from an event is imperative for people to survive in the modern world. This ability is a very important strength if one wants to pursue a career in law enforcement, or even the military – being abused help children in their future endeavours.
Being abused frees children from weakness, and makes them more mature than the other children. Being more mature, the children can learn easier and quicker, and to be less of a bother to the rest of the world. Being abused increases a child's learning skills, and heightens their intelligence. Surely all parents want their children