Adaptive Grieving Family Communication

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Although difficult, when families are confronted with a death of a child, being able to express their emotions appears to be an important component of adaptive grieving. “Moreover, clinicians argue that open and honest communication about one’s grief experiences with family members enhance couple and family relationships” (Hooghe, Neimeyer, and Rober, pg. 906). Hooghe et al. (2011) conducted a study where they looked at grieving family members communicating with one another and suggested that bereaved parents should work with therapists who discuss the complexities of communication to avoid keeping silent with one another and exploring different meanings behind sharing grief experiences with one another. Hooghe et al. stated, “The traditional …show more content…
Isolating oneself does not benefit in the long run and only causes damage. “Under certain circumstances, telling one’s story in the presence of responsive others is thought to be one major vehicle through which meaning reconstruction and healing occurs” (Hooghe et al., pg.906). Healing for a bereaved parent can begin when they are able to freely and openly express themselves. It is very difficult for any person who has went through a traumatic event to share their feelings, relive the day and allow themselves to become completely vulnerable, so it is understandable why bereaved parents struggle with this. Hooghe et al. state “Confronted with death, we need to create stories to make order of disorder and to find meaning in the meaningless (Gilbert, 2002; Holland & Neimeyer, 2010). Considerable empirical research, both quantitative (e.g., Harvey, 1996; Keely & Koening Kellas, 2005; Smyth, 1998) and qualitative (Riches & Dawson, 1996a, 1996b, 1998; Weber, Rowling & Scanlon, 2007; Wheeler, 2001; Woodgate, 2006) has found support for the beneficial effects of narrating one’s experiences related to the loss, or storying grief”