Conflict Case Studies

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I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend Markell for almost 2 years. Our relationship is considerably new, and we are still in the process of getting to know each other, and figuring out how to approach and handle our problems. Sometimes Markell does things that I do not like, but I try to ignore it because I want to avoid having an argument. However lately, Markell has made me extremely upset with his messiness and how he is unorganized, and I can no longer ignore it. Overall, I need Markell to clean up, and be a little more organized because we now share a space, and I do not like to live in clutter.
This conflict is on the problem to solve level. The problem to solve level is the lowest low of conflict, and are typically easy to solve, and sometimes are not considered a conflict. I consider my conflict at this level because it is not a big issue, and we can easily address it, talk it over, decide and move on. To figure out how to manage and approach a conflict,
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I realized to effectively approach and manage this situation, I need to control my emotions and have a conversation with him. I decided to approach this conflict by asking Markell in a calm voice if we could talk for a minute. He agreed, and we proceed to the dining room. I asked if he wanted something to eat because I think food makes situations friendlier and less like we are having a conference. Next, I clearly stated to Markell how his messiness and disorganization bothers me, and explained why. In return, I closely listened to Markell, and asked open-ended questions to make sure I fully understood his point of view and how he feels. After talking back and forth and sharing how we feel and what we think, I finally told Markell I need for us to come up with a compromise so we both felt comfortable in our