Terrie R. Shoemaker
10 January 2013
Instructor: Clinton Hale
In life, historically children count on their grandmothers for guidance, love and direction. In some instances, circumstances are such that the children and grandchildren cannot and do not get this type of support from the mother’s or grandmother’s, one must ask the question, why? What is missing or lacking in these families? What has been over looked in the family?” In reading O’Conner’s A Good Man is hard to find, the role of the grandmother proved to be very complex in many interactions throughout the story. The grandmother wanted to believe she was a “lady” and was described as putting on her dress and hat, “Her collars and cuffs were white organdy trimmed with lace and at her necklace she had pinned a purple spray of cloth violets containing a sachet. In case of an accident, anyone seeing her dead on the highway would know at once that she was a lady.” (Flannery O’Connor, M. (1953) The grandmother had no way of knowing that indeed, they would be in an accident, come into contact with the misfit and die in her collars and cuffs on the highway. The grandmother was very sly and knew just how to manipulate situations within her family to accomplish her desires. In society today, Grandmothers are thought of as the family leaders, the hug and cheerleaders of the family, not normally the ring leaders for deceit and deception. Readers could find themselves wondering if the grandmother believed this was the only way she had to get the family attention. The grandmother when speaking to her son about the possibility of making a change to the plans for their vacation trip that had been scheduled for Florida could not get the son to even acknowledge she was speaking to him. Why would a child not look up or acknowledge when his own mother was speaking to him? Could the acceptance of this behavior be in part due to the lack of respect the grandmother had expected of her own children while growing up and now resulting of the only form of communication her grandchildren know? The grandchildren seemed to lack guidance from their mother, father and grandmother leaving them to be spoiled brats that were very rude and disrespectful. It seems as if throughout the story, the children are a product of the lack of a true grandmother or mother role model or even a father figure.
The children were yelling and screaming in the car, trying to get the father to agree to taking a diversion to see what the grandmother had been talking about, the children knew if they continued to scream and yell the father would soon give up and allow them to change to the route they were talking about with the grandmother, she had made it sound so mysterious and exciting. Bailey finally yelled “All right!" and drew the car to a stop at the side of the road. "Will you all shut up? Will you all just shut up shut up for one second? If you don't shut up,…