Dr. Joy Parker
May 2 2013
Building a House upon Sand
Kids today are soft. Remember your adolescent years? Being a kid was great! Never having a care in the world, little to no responsibility, not much being expected of you as far as your parents were concerned, just being a good kid, mind your manners, clean your room, eat all your dinner, go to bed at your designated time and bring home good grades from school. What a simple time that was. For some it wasn’t always that simple, the trials and tribulations of a child’s daily life could be difficult at times. Peer pressure, bad association, fitting in with others and being bullied, just to name a few issues some adolescents deal with without an adult overseeing every situation they encounter in life. Some adults don’t feel children encounter seriously challenging issues in their life, whether it is socially, physically, mentally and or emotionally. A lot of what goes on in child’s life is over looked or goes unnoticed by some adults; not because parents are inattentive, but for the simple fact they’re not around to supervise every move their child makes 24 hours a day. I recall in my own childhood an event that impacted my life socially, physically, mentally and emotionally that my parents to this day are not aware of, this situation actually tested, shaped, and molded me into the man I am today.
In the elementary school I was the victim of a bully. I still remember his name to this day
Andre Cooper. Just saying his name now makes me want to stick my chest out like that of a young fighting cock hen. Well Andre was one of those huge kids that went through puberty at an th early age, you know the type, the only kid in the 4 grade with 5 o clock shadow and drive’s to
school, he was one of those kinds of big. Andre made it a point to muscle me out of my lunch every day in the hall way before lunch time in school for every day. I, being a short scrawny little kid weighing about 100 pounds soaking wet, was no match for hormonally advanced Andre and he knew it. While taking advantage of my weight and size, he intimidated me day after day for my lunch. I was leaving school going home hungry every day keeping my secret of being bullied to myself in fear that if I told someone it would only make the situation worse. Telling my parents or a teacher wouldn’t solve anything, in my mind it would only make Andre furious and encourage him to torment me even more if he found out I told someone of his actions. So what was I to do? No one to turn to, no clue on what to do to resolve this situation just living in fear each day of receiving a serious beat down if I didn’t give Andre my lunch. And then it hit me, “My Lunch!” that’s how I would fight back against Andre Cooper. As I reminisce on my tale of intimidation of the bully Andre Cooper it has me reflect on a problem that’s very prevalent in today’s society. Kids today are soft, with no selfreliance, no backbone or confidence, unable to stand on their own in real life dilemmas such as bullying.
The cause of kids today being soft could range from a wide array of reasons but never the less it has become an apparent problem. In recent years, a series of bullyingrelated suicides in the US and across the globe have drawn attention to the connection between bullying and suicide. Though too many adults including me still see bullying as "just part of being a kid," but it is a serious problem that leads to many