Hard To Get By Leslie Bell: Summary

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Love is too complex of a term to be defined in one distinct way. Love is an emotional experience that defines itself through one’s own body, experiences and outside influences. Psychotherapist Leslie Bell recognizes love’s complexities in her piece “Hard to Get: Twenty- Something Women and the Paradox of Sexual Freedom,” and discusses how poor personal experiences and societal influences of love lead to “strategies of desire” used by women to “cope” with their issues in balancing “sexual desires” and “relational desires” through sexual intercourse and emotional disconnect (Bell 32). Bell uses anecdotes from two women she had studied, Jayanthi and Alicia, to redefine the distinction between romantic love from familial or platonic love and how desires are use as a shield to protect from the pain love causes. …show more content…
In Fredrickson’s selection, “Love 2.0: How Our Supreme Emotion Affects Everything We Feel, Do, and Become” where she focuses solely on the “biochemistries of love” that displays love through natural human synchrony and how love is simply “positivity resonance” attainable between any individual regardless of any previous experiences (Fredrickson 114). By embracing the influence personal anecdotes, science, and cultural beliefs of love, Bell’s selective love that separates the mind from the body defies Fredrickson’s impractical science based inclusive love that severely undermines cultural impact and personal