May 6, 2013
After the upsetting discovery of infidelity, strong emotions and regular crises are the normal. The good news, however, is that the majority of marriages not only survive infidelity, but marriage and family therapy can help the marriages become stronger and more intimate after couples therapy. Most couples who initiate treatment find way to resolve difference and stay married. An unusual inconsistency is that couples that do not go to therapy end up in divorce court. My husband and I did not seek therapy and edibility divorced. The reason for my divorce was infidelity. It was difficult for me to accept the constant betrayal. My husband’s affairs occurred while we were the happiest being married. For some marriage happy as well as in troubled ones: Although the involved spouse may not be getting enough from the marriage, sometimes the involved spouse is not giving enough. Reasons for include low self-esteem, relationship lack of affection or a social background in which infidelity is condoned. A new crisis of infidelity is rising in which people who never intended to be unfaithful are inadvertently crossing the line from platonic friendships into romantic relationships multiple affairs may indicate an addiction to sex, love or romance. Love and romance addicts are driven by the passion of a new relationship. Sexual addicts are compulsively attracted to the high and the anxiety let go of sexual orgasm. But such action comes with a price -- feelings of shame and Parks pg. 2
for status take advantage, particularly in the workplace and on the on-line chat rooms. Emotional affairs differ from platonic friendships in that there is greater emotional intimacy than in the marital relationship, secrecy and deception from the spouse, and sexual chemistry. Internet affairs, which cause marital pain despite lack of actual physical contact, show emotional affairs. However, combined-type affairs in which extramarital intercourse occurs within a deep emotional part usually have the most disruptive force vulnerabilities for marriages can be linked to marital problems avoidance of conflict, fear of intimacy or life cycle changes, transition to parenthood, empty-nest. For my husband the type of business he owned created a huge problem for our marriage. He was owned a Barber Shop and had fifteen men and women renting a space from him. My Husband looked at beautiful women all day. He was very easy to persuade into having and extramarital affair, at the drop of a hat. He could not have used any excuses for not being happy or that he was dissatisfied with our marriage, because we had a very exciting lift together. We traveled to exotic location abroad, wherever we wanted to go, shopped, attended church on a regular basis and entertained friends and family. We had a happy marriage. The reactions of him betraying me, provided mystery and excitement for my spouse; he claimed that he was going through a mid-life-crisis; which resembled the post-traumatic stress symptoms.
Page pg. 3 My husband would want reconcile while; I had grown tired of the embarrassment and frustration of not knowing if he would our marriage could recover from all the infidelity. He claimed that infidelity was a common reaction for the loss of his parent’s marriage, shortly after the death of his father and opening a very lucrative business, was too much for him to handle. He had a beautiful wife inside and out, with a great career and mind for business. The Sky was the limit for us. We could have and buy anything we thought we wanted at the time. Obsessively pondering details of the affairs with different women was more important to my husband, than having a happy life. Continuously watching women at work and at social gatherings was the highlight of his day. I was constantly watching for further signs of betrayal and…