Judges: Physical Abuse and People Essay

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“The way we judge ourselves is the worst judge that ever existed” (19).The truth was spoken in the book “The Four Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz. Ruiz explains that everyone lives their lives day in and day out critically judging others and judging themselves much more. It ruins who people truly are and how people should act. People experience this judging because it is what everyone grew up with. It starts as a child, then goes through as a teen, and still is increasing as an adult. As a child, people expect them to be perfect or nearly close to it. Follow the rules, keep a smile on, and have no care in the world is what is truly expected. But the second they do anything wrong, they are judged. They are judged based on their behavior, and then people begin their talk. At this age this process is started by speaking to the parents, the parents then talk to the child and tell them that they need to behave themself. That’s when it kicks in that they’re not perfect. Ruiz admits, “Nobody abuses us more than we abuse ourselves…” (19). This is self-explanatory, people can be abused by everyone around them, physically, verbally, and emotionally. But when they abuse themself, they can’t stand to look into the mirror. It all starts when they begin to believe that they need to try their hardest to do what is right, and when they fail, they believe they failed themselves. That’s when they begin to judge themself, and it never dissipates. As a teen, people expect others to try their hardest at everything they do. When they admit that they actually made a mistake and did something wrong, everyone judges them. Others may be doing the same exact thing but they still will look at them and shake their heads, they don’t want anyone to know that they are the same, they want people to think that they are the outcast and they are the only ones doing wrong, the truth is, they’re not. When the judging begins, it’s not only people judging them; it’s them judging themself, telling themselves that they’re a horrible person and that they did wrong. They can never take anything back, and this feeling will keep increasing. That’s…