November 27, 2012
92 days: An Annotated Bibliography This year 21.6 million students fresh out of high school went to college. Most start out with having long distance relationships. Going through day to day life not seeing the person one may love being not able to see their faces nor giving them hugs. This paper researched this topic because it directly affects the author. The research done is centralized around the question of “what are the effects of having a long distance relationship and in the long run are they successful?” This unswervingly impacts myself since my own personal relationship has taken the long distance path and it concerns me and my partner what will happen to us. Are we condemned to fail? If successful will there still be permanent destruction done to our relationship? Maybe knowing the side effects and complications that may arise will help me ascertain, avoid, or maybe handle certain situations with more positive efficiency. This is not just a research paper but just maybe can be used as a device to save my own personal relationship from what could be a predetermined fate like most of the research shows.
Cameron, Jessica J., and Michael Ross. "In Times of Uncertainty: Predicting the Survival of Long-Distance Relationships." The Journal of Social Psychology 147.6 (2007): 581-606. Print.
Compared to long distance relationships (LDRs) and same-city relationships, long distance relationships are more likely to fail. In a survey they took, about 40% of the people broke up with the 2 month to a year period that they were contacted. LDRs are running a risk of failing due to not being in the presence of their partner, faith and trust within the relationship and partner begins to fall, and it becomes stressful. When it comes to breaking up, the male will end it before the female. Neither gender wanted to trust the other to do what’s right such as not finding alternative partners and remain honest about everything.
Long distance relationships are likely to fail because one or both will become too stressed out or lose security within the relationship. The source was okay when it came to explain why LDRs will fail way before GDRs, but the research was not explained well when it came down to the data analysis. I am in the middle of being convinced of the argument because everyone’s relationship is different. One can trust the author because the author has no basis but forms their option on what generally happens and actual facts. I disagree with the authors’ reasons why the couples broke up due to the fact that I and my girlfriend have some trust issues due to insecurities and situations that has happened, however, we are going on thirteen months right now and almost three years altogether. The target audience is people in long distance relationships or people who are about to be in one. The source speaks the direct opposite onto what the other sources are saying such as those from Dr. Roberts. Dr. Roberts argues that there is no difference between geographically close and far away relationships while Dr. Cameron directly states the opposite. While this article does disagree with Dr. Roberts it agrees with some of the findings of Dr. Pistole in the sense that long distance relationships are harder. The source refutes what I am trying to find because I am going toward that long distance relationships can work, but the article says otherwise.
Holmes, Mary. "An Equal Distance? Individualisation, Gender and Intimacy in Distance Relationships." The Sociological Review 52.2 (2004): 180-200. Print.
This article is mainly about how people think it’s a heavier burden on the woman when they have to separate due to work or academic reasons. In some cases, they are right, the woman has to maintain the house and take care of the kids while the husband is away. In other cases they are wrong the man has to deal with just as many emotional burdens that women do such