Shawel’s marital relationship is distressed by his lack of trust on his wife and poor conflict management skill. His interactions with his wife usually accompanied by negative emotions which lead them to conflict. Shawel’s distrust towards his wife and their unsecured relational bond can be explained using EFT. As Johnson emphasized that relationship distress is a result of partner's "rigid engagement in negative interactions cycles which develop from partners' unmet attachment needs within their relationship" (Johnson, 2004), Shawel's interactions with his wife is always accompanied by distrust and anger. This anger is coming from, according to Johnson, the unmet need of Shawel. As a child, Shawel experienced unsecured bond because of the absence of the father and unmet needs from his mother. Shawel's childhood relationship attachment can be explained well by attachment theory. In view of that, Attachment theory explains how attachment with primary caregiver during childhood…show more content… Fonagy (2001) explained how individuals with attachment anxiety had inaccurate emotional mirroring by their primary caregivers. These individuals usually believe that in order their attachment needs to meet, they express their distress through coercive behavior towards the loved ones (Lavy, Mikulincer, & Shaver, 2013). Unfortunately, this behavior in turn, interferes with their ability to provide responsive caregiving to their partner. Similarly, individuals with attachment avoidance faced rejection when they disclosed their attachment needs to their caregivers as a child (Belsky & Fearson, 2008). Consequently, as an adult, these individuals usually deactivate "their affective experience, to avoid relying on others to meet their needs, and to dismiss the emotional needs of their partners in caregiving situations" (Johnson, Dalglesh, Lafontaine,Wiebe, & Tasca, 2015,
