The Worst Kind Of Betrayal Analysis

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“It’s easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.” This quote from William Blake, is coming to the theme that when an enemy betrays you, it doesn’t hurt as much as it would when a friend betrays you. This is because enemies don’t hold any love in our hearts but a friend is one of the most trusted people in our lives. Betrayal can be intentional or sometimes we may not even realize what we have done till the betrayal has already occurred. When we think about hurting our loved ones most of us think we wouldn’t be the person to intentionally sabotage or hurt our relationships. However, based on extensive research and the evidence in the books we have read in class, betraying someone you love is more common than most of us would hope. …show more content…
For example we have found that betrayal is often unexpected, and something that builds up overtime. The author of the article “The Worst Kind of Betrayal”, Lissa Rankin explains how trust can be related to a jar of marbles. Overtime as trust gets built more marbles get added to the jar. However when trust is broken marbles are taken out. The long term goal is to have a lot of marbles in the jar and if the jar is empty, then the relationship doesn’t have much trust and someone is bound to be hurt. She gives the example of her and her husband's marriage. She was happy in life, her marriage was strong, she had a nice job, everything was going the way she wanted it to. Until one day her happy marriage turned out to be the exact opposite of what she thought. Her husband came up to her and said he was not happy and wanted a divorce. Confused she asked why because to her knowledge, everything was just fine. He said he had been unhappy for a while and wanted out. This shows us that although one person might not see it, a marriage can be falling apart slowly over time and can hit you out of nowhere. We see this in the book The Samurai’s Garden when we find out Steven’s father has been having an affair with a woman for twelve years. He was unhappy for years and one day all of a sudden Steven found out that his father has been betraying him and his family for years. Steven’s father betrays Steven and his family by living a lie and breaking the trust that Steven has with his father. Similar to Rankin and Steven, Torvald in the play A Doll’s House is taken by surprise the betrayal that has slowly been building up overtime. Nora was unhappy throughout a majority of the marriage however Torvald was completely unaware of his wife’s feelings. One day after an argument Nora decides it is best if she leaves the marriage, Torvald, her kids, and her entire life as she knew it. Not only does Nora betray Torvald, but she