You need time to really get to know the other person. When people first meet and while they are in a dating relationship, they always put their best selves forward and try to hide the aspects of themselves that they think will not be accepted by the other person. He's longer you spend time with another person, the more likely some things will slip out that have been kept hidden. Also, as people get to know one another, they are more likely to feel safer about sharing aspects of themselves that they may have wanted to hide in the beginning.
Then each partner has the opportunity to work through any issues that come up and to decide whether they can live with the other person for rest of their lives or not. You need to be emotionally healthy before you can have a healthy marriage. In order to have a happy and healthy marriage, the individuals need to be emotionally healthy themselves.People with unresolved childhood issues bring those into the marriage whether they are aware of it or not and the issues will play out in the marriage. The problems can eventually be resolved through hard work, but only if both partners are willing to do the work. Often one partner will decide that they didn't get what they bargained for and will leave.You and your partner need time to discover whether or not you are really compatible. It is very beneficial to get marriage counseling to find out where you click and where