Types Of Love Essay

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Katie Howard
AP English Literature and Composition
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The typical high school sweethearts falling in love and dating until they get married is often the movie version of love. The infatuation Edward and Bella have for each other in the Twilight Saga is not the only form of love. Everyone in the world has felt some version of love whether it be admiration, platonic, motherly, or others. There are types that are not beneficial to both sides of the relationship, such as obsessive or relationally addictive ‘love’. It is understandable to omit these because of their lack in appeal, although they are real and have caused problems in peoples’ lives in literature and real life. An example of a relationship gone wrong is the astounding news that a famous paralympian runner, who is charged with murdering his girlfriend. Contrary to the common belief that love is always a favorable emotion, literature shows both positive and negative affection. In the category of adoration there is still another division, the different types of love such as romantic, immoral, obsessive, and unrequited love that occur in the books Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen, The Scarlet Letter by Nathaniel Hawthorne, Wuthering Heights by Emily Bronte, and Great Expectations by Charles Dickens.
In Pride and Prejudice, Elizabeth Bennet and Mr. Darcy’s romantic love is a healthy form of love based on how well they match. They are suited for one another because as Elizabeth says, “[Darcy was] disgusted with the women who were always speaking and looking, and thinking for [his] approbation alone. I roused, and interested [him], because I was so unlike them” (Austen 236). Darcy appreciates the difference in Lizzy from other women he knows. They can give each other what they desire in a spouse. They both wish for an intelligent individual to have conversations with long after they are married, which the other can provide. This is shown through Lizzy’s character and her refusal of Mr. Collins’ proposal. Another couple with a healthy relationship because of their compatibility is Mr. Collins and Lizzy’s friend, Charlotte Lucas. Their relationship works because they also provide the other what they want in a companionship. Charlotte Lucas receives financial security and a home she can take care of from Mr. Collins while he feels he has done his duty to his society. Lizzy is surprised by the couple, but understands that they work well together and because of this approves of the duo. This is proven after Darcy proposes to Lizzy the second time. After his proposal, she confesses that he taught her humility indirectly when she learned that she had misjudged his character. He acknowledges to Lizzy that he has learned the same through her rejection to his proposal. ”I was given good principles, but left to follow them in pride and conceit. […] by my parents, who, […] taught me to be selfish and overbearing; […] to think meanly of all the rest of the world; […] and such I might still have been but for you, dearest, loveliest Elizabeth! […] You taught me a lesson, […] By you, I was properly humbled. I came to you without a doubt of my reception. You shewed me how insufficient were all my pretensions to please a woman worthy of being pleased" (Austen, 200).
The difference between Darcy’s first and second proposal is that the first was arrogant and not endearing in any way. He even mentions”, In vain have I struggled. It will not do. My feelings will not be repressed. You must allow me to tell you how ardently I admire and love you.” (Austen. 113). He specifically tells Lizzy that he tried not to love her but could not suppress his feelings. He honestly believes that she will not refuse his offer because of his wealth, and he is utterly taken aback when she does. The refusal angers him but also serves as he needs to overcome his pride. His second attempt is from the heart and not haughty. It is not the most eloquent proposal. He says to