What Is Daisy's Relationship In The Great Gatsby

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Charles J. Orlando once said: “A woman should never invest in a relationship she wouldn’t want for her daughter, nor allow any man to treat her in a way she would scold her son for.” If the characters in the novel, The Great Gatsby, believed relationships should be the way Charles J. Orlando described them to be, none of them would have allowed themselves to be in such an unhealthy relationship, especially as unhealthy as Daisy and Tom’s. A healthy relationship is when two people share mutual love and respect for each other, and will always be able trust each other. Sometimes one may need to be selfless or make sacrifices for the one he loves, but he should always feel it was worth it. Being the selfish character she is, Daisy Buchanan
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As Daisy and Gatsby do have a very deep history and connection, they understandably still have feelings for each other, despite Daisy being married to Tom. Jordan Baker recalls how Daisy and Gatsby used to be before he left for the war: “They were so engrossed in each other that she didn’t even see me until I was five feet away” (Fitzgerald ch. 4 p. 74). Falling in love with someone will make it difficult to fall in love with anyone else. However, Daisy still married Tom, and she continues to stay with him despite still seeing Gatsby. A perfect relationship consists of loyalty, trust, and selflessness. Breaking Tom’s trust for her, Daisy had told Gatsby: “‘I love you now- isn’t that enough?... I did love him once- but I loved you too’” (Fitzgerald ch. 7 p. 132). Although Daisy did say she loved Tom, she also admitted to loving Gatsby at the same time. One cannot possibly love two people at once- if this is the case, then it is most likely not love. Daisy “told [Gatsby] that she loved him, and Tom Buchanan saw,” causing him to become jealous and angry at Gatsby (Fitzgerald ch. 7 p. 119). Thus proving she is disloyal, Tom can no longer trust Daisy. However, she is not the only untrustworthy and disloyal one in the relationship, as “Tom’s got some woman in New York” (Fitzgerald ch. 1 p. 15). Yes, Daisy and Gatsby’s relationship was very one-sided, but at least Gatsby was loyal to Daisy. Both Tom and Daisy were disloyal to each other, yet continued to stay together for their own selfish reasons, not respecting each other enough to let one another go. Why should two people be married if both are in love with other people? As mentioned before, selflessness is also an aspect to a healthy relationship. Being the selfish characters they are, Daisy and Tom just used each other for their own good. Tom is rich,