After reading the book “Necessary Endings” by Dr. Henry Cloud, I have certainly learned and have realized that endings are a typical part of life; whether it is in my personal life or my career. Many times throughout my life, I have encountered necessary endings, at some earlier times, I did not comprehend that it was a good ending or a time to make a move. Nor did I know that there were actual steps and meaningful long hours of evaluating my options. This book has taught me to understand those options and how to deal with necessary endings. There are three types of necessary endings as Cloud describes as “pruning”. The first type is when we see that your resources are better for something else, and this situation is best when ended because it will not flourish anymore. The second is when we have done everything we can to help the situation flourish but it is not going anywhere, and nothing is changing, and the future is going nowhere fast. The third ending is when there is no hope for success or flourishing, and the necessary ending is the only option, which leads us into putting all your resources into something that has a future. In other words, these endings are according to Dr. Henry Cloud (2010) “good but not best, sick and not getting well, and deadwood taking up space” (p. 27). These kinds of necessary endings are a must if we want to thrive in personal and professional life. Of course, it will take significant steps to ensure that we succeed in pruning. Dr. Henry Cloud (2010) stated “Focus, mission, purpose, structure, and strategic execution” (p. 29). In particular situations with life or in business, we have to define what endings we need to take. Not all are necessary endings either there are at times situations that can be changed, and there is hope for the future. In identifying the difference in these situations, we have to get hopeless about the problem and come to terms with the reality that is. This will be difficult depending on the type of person we are as well. Dealing with different types of people will also affect how we go about identifying if there needs to be a necessary ending. If we are dealing with a wise person, then we can give them direction and resources to enhance their full potential. With a foolish person, there is no talking to them because they will not take responsibility in their failure; they will only blame others. I have never thought of persons or co-workers to be evil and out to do harm, but now I see clearly in some instances where their actions were indeed evil. These people we have to stay away from and protect ourselves against them because they do not care about anyone but themselves; they might be jealous, envious, or even get you fired. As a servant leader, I have to be able to read into people’s character and decide if I want them to be a part of my future or not. Any situation that has been frustrating for over a period of time is just cause for creating urgency. This will allow us to move on with an ending or a change, be aware of people who do not share your vision and will stand in the way of it. Dr. Henry Cloud (2010) stated “So accept the fact that endings are difficult and hard to implement” (p.190). By setting standards, we can establish where we want to be, and everyone else will either change or not it is up to them not to. Never forget that only we have the power of where we want our lives to be, no one else can make that decision. Surround ourselves with people who believe in our vision and values and who are positive. Make all necessary endings with a good standing ensuring that everyone is clear on what the bottom line is. Take in all of the experiences that necessary endings had on us and only keep the positive. Some necessary endings are the only beginning to a better tomorrow.
This book definitely made me think back when I decided on making a necessary ending. It was a very hard decision because I had worked very hard and sacrificed so much. I was in
The singer compares herself, however, to Juliet and the Scarlet Letter (the letter, strangely—not its wearer). These two “love stories” did not have the happiest of endings. Hester Prynne lived for many years ostracized and condemned for her sin and Juliet killed herself. Yet the song implies that the singer will have a happy ending, perhaps because unlike Juliet, she gets her man. Or, as Nettle would suggest, she might just be less neurotic than most and therefore, a happier person in general, making…
Juliet and Romeo: Alternative Ending
Act V, Scene I
Romeo: Last night I dreamt a dream that would have thrilled me just yesterday. Juliet found me dead but as her lips touched mine I came back to life. This dream ended with a happy ending but it didn’t make me happy. The weirdest thing happened as I woke up. Balthasar came into my thoughts and I wanted nothing more than to hear is voice again. What a strange feeling it was, like nothing I’ve ever felt before.
she recognizes and respects the different opinions of the Republicans. Not only does she serve as a role model to young people, particularly young African American women, she also reaches out communities beyond, evident through her commitment to ending childhood obesity and supporting military families. Her leadership style is that of a democratic leader, she engages people in her team and seeks consensus. As a public leader, her style of leadership brings people together to solve social problems…
family life was important and they migrated together. Woman married by the 20’s and had babies every 2 years until menopause. The long childbearing years caused many deaths among the women. The role of the women was to reproduce. New England didn’t want to grant separate rights because they wanted to promote the unity between marriage. After the half-way covenant, women were in the majority in the Puritan congregations. Women wove, cooked, cleaned, and cared for children.
Why didn’t all Native…
treat us.The Golden Rule reinforces this: One should treat others as one would like to be treated. This as the Golden Commandment means that we should remember about empathy and how what we do will affect the other person and therefore whether we would want it happening to ourselves.
1-The Parable of The Good Samaritan:
-A Jewish man is beaten up by thugs whilst travelling to Jericho.
-Then a priest passes and ignores his moral duty to help the man and simply leaves him there on the road.…
similar to that of his personality. Mr Hyde however is hugely ugly and very repulsive thus again connecting with his character; and this is exactly what the Victorian’s believed.
The novel’s two endings have a certain connotation that again plays with the idea of duality. We are not just given the ending from the perspective from one person, but two. But, more obviously, this was important for Stevenson to write so that the reader could be given a full…
storytelling. Miranda and Ferdinand, the naive lovers, Alonso Antonio and Sebastian, the shortsighted Machiavellian conspirator villains and Caliban Trinculo and Stephano, the drunken comic foils. Caliban also provides the dual purpose of representing the servant character, which is an archetype in itself. In the same vein as the character archetypes, there are three storylines which exist throughout the play. The first is Miranda and Ferdinand. This story arch is one of romance between the two young lovers…
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JENNIFER RIDDLE HARDING
Washington and Jefferson College
ERNEST HEMINGWAY IS KNOWN—AT TIMES EvEN PARODIED— FOR SHORT STORIES that rely heavily on dialogue interspersed with clipped narrative reports offering little evaluation or interpretation. This style is prominent in some of his best-known stories, such as “The Killers,”…
is defeated by the culture shock in America. The chapter also demonstrates the differences between the two sisters, and the different lifestyle they’ve had. Brave Orchid was a working woman in China and in America, and Moon Orchid has always had servants to help her out. When she arrives at America, Moon Orchid fails at completing simple tasks and conforming to American life. The theme of “At the Western Palace” is the contrast between American and Chinese culture. In her visit to America, Moon must…