Dating Relationships Essay

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Two years ago I began a relationship with my ex-boyfriend Chase. Before we started dating we were involved in a relationship of choice because of our drama class. Due to the nature of drama it was helpful to be on good terms with classmates and to develop positive relationships with them. However, halfway into the semester the sources of initial attraction that led to me developing a crush on Chase included his physical appearance and the proximity due to us having class together (Beebe, Beebe, Redmond 261). Fast forward a few weeks and we began dating because he also felt an attraction towards me.
The immediate rewards and costs of our relationship were that since we were dating and in the same drama class it made doing scene work that involved
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My move to Texas was a reflective turning point because it signaled a change in how we both perceived the relationship (Beebe, Beebe, Redmond 268). We struggled the most with the relational dialectic Connectedness vs. Autonomy because as a person I am okay with not seeing a significant other all the time and not being in close proximity but he was the opposite. With Connectedness vs. Autonomy there is the struggle of trying to maintain ones’ independence while understanding that a relationship requires interdependence (Beebe, Beebe, Redmond 271). While I was in Louisiana it was easier for us to meet up and go on dates but when I moved it became harder to see each other because I only go home once a month. For the first two months of me being in Texas we would Skype to make up for not being able to see each other. However, as we got further into the semester we were pulled into separate directions and it was hard to find the time to communicate efficiently. Unfortunately, we ended up breaking up in November of last semester but we have still managed to be good friends to one another because we understand that a friendship is a lot less involved than a long distance relationship. It is important to communicate with friends but there is less guilt when feelings are not