What Makes A Marriage Last?
January 23, 2011
When taking vows, it is said that marriage is until death do us part, however more than 40% of all marriages end in divorce in the United States alone. After extensive research I came across some information on how to make your marriage successful as well as the major causes of divorce in the United States. In my research I found that the fundamentals of a successful marriage are trust, communication, respect, love, support, realistic expectations and togetherness. I have conducted internet searches, researched books and surveyed a few people to get my information. From this information I came to the conclusion that marriage is not for everyone. However, every person has their own interpretation of what marriage should be along with how to make their marriage a success.
What Makes A Marriage Last?
What is Marriage?
From the beginning of time God created man, God also created a woman to be with that man. It is written in the Bible in Matthew 19:5-6 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” (Authorized King James Version Holy Bible, 1994) Therefore God created marriage to be between a man and a woman. Hence from a religious point of view marriage is the union of a man and a woman that is blessed in the eyes of God. However, marriage is also recognized as the jointing together of one man and one woman as husband and wife in a written, verbal and or emotional agreement and consensual relationship recognized by law. Does everyone have the same idea of what makes a marriage last? No, because everyone has different views about life, so they will definitely have different views about marriage.
Why do people get married?
Marriage should not be entered into easily. This decision should take a great deal of communication between partners to establish if this is something they both are ready for. They are so many different reasons why people choose to get married. But most marriages are the result of love, happiness and togetherness. When getting into a relationship you are looking for someone to have companionship and in most relationships people tend to look past the present and look toward their future. Most women have a tendency to evaluate their current relationship to identify if they can be with their partner in the future and perhaps being married to that person.
As children we are taught that when we get older we will meet someone, get to know that person, get married and have a family of our own. However as society changes many people are not getting married and some are getting married for the wrong reason which leads to divorced. Some people, believe it or not get married for money and sex. Tricked by their partners for sex and hoping to get more money from tax returns and also marring a military member are all reasons why people get married. Studies have shown that married couples enjoy better health than single people and they sometimes live longer as well. This may be another reason why people get married.
What are the fundamentals of a successful marriage?
Having a successful marriage is not an impossible goal to attain. They are many couples that have been successfully married for decades. How can some people make marriage work for them and others just fail? Is there a secret out there for a successful marriage? No, they are no secrets out there for a successful marriage. However, the majority of couples have learned the basic essential tools to make their marriage work. From these fundamentals they have gained the knowledge needed to enjoy and keep their marriage a success. Some research has shown that the fundamentals of a successful marriage are love, respect, trust, togetherness,